Perhaps you've heard about it – or you're in the middle of it right now:
Your baby suddenly sleeps less well, wakes up more often, clings to you more and suddenly doesn't want to be left alone anymore.
Many parents call this phenomenon the “8-month drama.”
And it can be really exhausting.
Why is this happening now?
Around the eighth month, your baby is going through a lot of developmental changes.
There are three main factors at play:
1. Separation anxiety
Your baby is now beginning to understand that you and they are not one person.
They realize that mommy or daddy can be away, and this triggers insecurity.
This new awareness often causes your baby to seek your closeness, especially at night.
2. Motor development
Many babies learn to crawl, sit, or take their first steps during this time.
Their brains are working overtime – and sometimes babies even practice their new skills in their sleep or when they wake up at night.
3. Cognitive leaps
Your baby is getting better and better at understanding connections.
They can store information and recall it later.
These mental advances are great – but they can disrupt their sleep patterns.
Why it feels like a “drama”
The 8-month drama doesn't just affect your baby – it affects you too.
Nights become more restless, it takes longer to fall asleep, and sometimes you feel like you're back at square one.
This phase can be frustrating, especially if things were going well before.
What you can do
– Stay as consistent as possible: Stick to your evening routine, even if your baby needs more closeness at the moment.
– Offer extra reassurance: A gentle stroke, soothing words, or your presence can help.
– Give them space to develop: Let your baby crawl around, pull themselves up, or try new things during the day – this allows them to “try things out” without disturbing you at night.
– Respond calmly and predictably: Your baby can sense when you are stressed. Calmness and composure will help you get through this phase more easily.
Important note: It is not a regression
Even if it feels like it, your baby is not “unlearning” how to sleep.
This phase is a normal, healthy part of development.
It lays the foundation for greater independence and security – even if it seems to be the opposite at the moment.
Conclusion
The 8-month drama is intense – but temporary.
It shows that your baby is making great strides in their development and sees you as a safe haven.
With patience, closeness, and a clear, loving framework, you will get through this time together.
If you would like to structure this phase in such a way that you both can still find peace, please feel free to contact me.
Together, we will find a way for you to gently guide your baby through the 8-month drama—without both of you ending up completely exhausted.
