Maybe this sounds familiar to you:
\nDuring the day you hear from others how \u201csweet\u201d your child is. At grandma\u2019s they sleep, with the babysitter they play contentedly, at daycare they seem cheerful.
\nAnd as soon as they are back with you, everything seems to come out: crying, whining, tantrums.
\nThis can be very stressful for you as a mom or dad \u2013 and at the same time, it\u2019s an important sign.
\n\nThe principle of attachment
\nYour baby has a unique bond with you.
\nYou are their safe harbor \u2013 the person with whom they can let go.
\nWith you, they don\u2019t have to \u201cfunction.\u201d They don\u2019t have to hold back. They are allowed to show how they really feel.
\n\nThis is not a sign of ingratitude or rejection, but of deep trust.
\n\nWhy they are \u201cwell-behaved\u201d with others
\nWith people who are not their closest attachment figures, children often behave more reservedly.
\nThey carefully test how these people react and don\u2019t show all their emotions.
\nThat\u2019s because they feel less certain about how their emotions will be received.
\nYou can compare this to adults who smile politely at work even when they are stressed inside \u2013 and then let it all out at home.
\n\nEmotional release
\nChildren store stress and experiences.
\nWhen they are with you, they release this tension \u2013 often in the form of crying or anger.
\nIt\u2019s like a safety valve: if they didn\u2019t, the inner tension would keep building up.
\n\nWhat this means for you
\nThe fact that your baby or toddler cries the most with you does not mean they are unhappy with you.
\nOn the contrary: it shows that they trust you, that they know you can handle their feelings.
\nThis is the foundation for healthy emotional development.
\n\nHow to deal with it well
\n\u2013 Take the feelings seriously, even if you can\u2019t solve them in the moment.
\n\u2013 Offer closeness: hold them, speak gently, make eye contact.
\n\u2013 Don\u2019t be disappointed if they seem \u201cmore difficult\u201d with you \u2013 that\u2019s a sign of love.
\n\u2013 Plan small breaks for yourself to recharge your own batteries.
\n\nConclusion
\nWhen your child cries with you, they are telling you: \u201cHere I feel safe.\u201d
\nIt\u2019s a sign of a stable bond \u2013 and the best gift you can give your child for life.
\nEven if it\u2019s exhausting: you are doing everything right.
\n\nIf you\u2019d like to learn how to handle these moments with more ease and what this means for your child\u2019s sleep, feel free to reach out to me.
\nTogether we\u2019ll find a way for you to feel secure \u2013 and your child too.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Vielleicht kommt dir das bekannt vor:Tags\u00fcber h\u00f6rst du von anderen, wie \u201elieb\u201c dein Kind ist. Bei der Oma schl\u00e4ft es, beim Babysitter spielt es zufrieden, in der Kita wirkt es fr\u00f6hlich.Und sobald es wieder bei dir ist, scheint alles rauszukommen: Weinen, Quengeln, Wutanf\u00e4lle.Das kann dich als Mama oder Papa sehr belasten \u2013 und gleichzeitig ist […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":1084,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1082","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-allgemein"],"yoast_head":"\n